This is my self-diagnosis. It captivated me years ago and it keeps me hostage in my safe place. Whatifitis is rooted in fear. It prevents me from taking chances in so many areas of my life: my career, my hobbies, my love life, my dreams. It keeps me frozen in my current state because it is a comfort zone, although comfort zones aren’t always as safe as what they appear to be.
Don’t get me wrong, I have conquered some of my whatifitis, such as taking solo trips and visiting new places with my sons, but it still keeps me in shackles when it comes to other aspects in my life.
It keeps me from taking the what-if leap.
What if I started that small business.
What if I allowed that man to come into my life and my family.
What if I didn’t overthink every single solitary step in my life?
Overcoming whatifitis isn’t an overnight thing. The cure is hard work and determination. There needs to be a realization and self reflection on what I am doing. Is there is any self-sabotaging behaviours present? There needs to be a plan; a schematic to ensure whatifitis doesn’t return to take me back to that place. I have had a glimpse of the freedom from whatifitis, and it is a beautiful thing. I think I am ready to explore that further, and to find a way to cure myself of this condition.
We all have desires that we hope to fulfill. Perhaps it is a particular end goal, like finishing a graduate degree, or maybe it’s one that continues to evolve as time goes on. Sometimes that dream gets modified as we grow and realize that the particular dream we had no longer suits us.
Over the last few months I have taken steps to work towards realizing my own dreams. There are many of them actually. Some of them are lumped together, and others stand alone.
Sometimes it takes courage and a leap of faith to take the next step. That is something I discovered. Sometimes it takes an external event that makes you realize you’re wasting time. Other times it might be that internal fear of failure that stops you from realizing your dreams. Don’t let it. Life is too short to keep putting your dreams on the back burner.
You only regret the things you didn’t do. You’ll live with the what-ifs and never know if you would have been a great success. Or if you found a way that didn’t work, because if you tried, there is no such thing as failure.
So, dream, yes by all means. Keep dreaming. But then take that dream and one step at a time, turn that dream into your reality. What will you see when you look back after you did?
Everyday life sometimes gets between us and our dreams. We work to pay the bills but there is oftentimes an underlying passion that sits there. An unrealized dream.
Sometimes things happen in our lives to make us remember these things. They send us down a path where we face them again and again, re-sparking that passion that was lingering with a slow burn under the layers of drudgery that is daily life.
When that happens, we are almost forced to listen. We see it there, hazy like waking from a slumber, where it is all but forgotten. That is when you know you need to pay attention to those dreams. To determine how you can make those dreams a reality. To set goals to achieve what it is you’ve always wanted. Don’t back down now. Something out there is calling to you.
You live this life once. Don’t let your opportunities pass you by. Find your way. Find your happiness. Because when you do, you won’t have regrets at the end of your days. Live your dream.