As a spiritual person, holding space tends to be rather intuitive. I’ve done it for years without analyzing or recognizing what it truly is. Holding space for someone is one of the most giving things a person can do because it removes the ego and allows you to fully give of yourself to the person you are seeking to support.
For me, holding space takes many forms and has been a recurring theme in my relationships. I often hold space for my dearest friend miles away when she is in emotional distress, and she will do the same for me. Intention and energy are sent along with support and acceptance for whatever the other person is feeling or experiencing. Holding space provides safety for the person needing support. Sometimes it means the physical support of holding hands or an embrace; a kiss on the forehead to show they are loved as they are. It means being that sounding board to let the other speak freely without judgement on their words, actions, or emotions. It is the eye contact to allow the other to look deeper and find your soul reaching out to them.
Regardless of how the space is held, there is a common thread through it all; holding space is done selflessly. It is done purely to support the other person regardless of personal feelings, opinions, or even the presence of self. Holding space means giving all of yourself to that person for the time needed to support them and to allow the other person the freedom to be themselves completely, without the pressures or stresses to change those parts of themselves that are thought to be undesirable or needing change. Holding space allows them to feel that they can just be; that they are enough as they are. We are all perfectly imperfect, and exactly as we should be.
I spent the last two weeks preparing for, photographing, and editing images for a dear friend’s wedding. It wasn’t a fancy or expensive wedding, just an intimate affair with their children, close friends, and me as the photographer. It was one of the best kinds of weddings there are.
Romance has been the theme these past two weeks so it seems. I watched as she went through the elation of marrying the man that she loved back in the days of climbing trees and skinning knees to saying the emotional and heartfelt vows they wrote to each other. Life took them on different journeys; but thirty-some years later, they finally realized their youthful dreams of marrying each other. I was honoured to be part of their day in any capacity. I was even more honoured to be asked to capture their day for them.
Blended families can be a challenge; but they can also be an amazing new chapter in life. The man she brought into her child’s life is truly in love with her, and as I observed them as a whole over the weekend, I noticed things that perhaps only a photographer sees. I saw how he discreetly kept an eye on his young step-son while he continued on doing what he was doing. I saw how she included his adult daughters as if she had known them all her life, like lifelong friends. Most of all, I saw how he watched her. I saw how even though his exterior has been weathered from life, his eyes were soft. I saw how his eyes softened even more every time he looked at her. She didn’t notice most times because she was busy being a hostess to her family, but he always had the look in his eyes that showed his soul whenever he laid his eyes on her. There was no doubt that this man has always loved his bride, and I sense he wanted to take in every single moment of this day so that he would never forget it.
Love. The greatest of these truly is love.
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and reading about vision boards and vision journals lately. They are two paths to help one realize their potential, a visual guide to continue on towards goals, and a motivator to get where one wants to go.
I wonder sometimes how many people put on the solid effort to create visions to propel themselves to the next level of their lives. This motivates me to help others in achieving their goals and dreams. I would love to be able to help others to create their own vision board, or journal, or even both. I have a new mission in life.
I would love to hear from those who do vision boards/journals and how they help you. I would also love to hear from those who do not, but are interested in them and what questions might arise that should be answered.
Easter is often thought of as a religious holiday. This year, Passover occurs at the same time, giving many individuals reason to celebrate their given faiths concurrently.
I see Easter as more than a religious observance. Easter to me is the time of renewal for myself, Mother Nature, and the world in general. Living in North America, Easter falls at the start of spring. While we still have plenty of snow around today, it hardly feels like spring, but the attitude and expectations are still the same nonetheless. Spring brings about new life, and since Easter occurs during this season, the two are intertwined for me.
There are many times of the year where I feel the need to re-evaluate and refresh my goals and motivations. Naturally, Easter is one of them. I find with the days getting longer, and the sun feeling warmer as it shines through the windows, it is a good time to check in with my progress. I look to see which goals I am on my way to meeting, which ones I have met, and where I need to go from here.
I get motivation at Easter because there are new beginnings happening all around me. The snow is melting, the grass starts to grow and green up. Tulips and other flowers start to wake from their winter sleep. I see birds start nesting in their homes in my back yard, preparing for their new babies. It sets the tone for the next few months, as we gear up for summer, then prepare for autumn. Spring and Easter are one of my favourite times of the year.
I wish you all a wonderful spring, and I hope you choose to celebrate the season in whichever manner suits you best.