We all, at one point in time or another, have experienced something negative. Something beyond our control that affected us in a less than positive way. Perhaps it was the abrupt end to a relationship or being forced to move out of an apartment before you were ready. Maybe you were released from a job that you were incredibly good at, and still cannot figure out why it happened.
These kinds of things can affect us in a negative way, sometimes leaving us to think that we did something wrong or were responsible for the event, and as such, we take responsibility for the consequences.
But what if we shifted our thinking? What if we reframe those events to see that events can happen independent to us, even though they affect us?
Positive things can happen from negative points in our lives. What if that relationship needed to end in order to see that there was a host of mental and emotional abuse involved, creating a harmful environment to you, but you just couldn’t see it until you were on the outside looking in? What if that apartment that you loved was simply too expensive, but you found a smaller flat closer to work that allowed you to walk there, thereby allowing you to spend less on rent, not have to pay for public transportation, and increased your level of physical activity which not only results in a healthier you, but you also lose those couple of pounds that were troubling you, and you also have extra money in your pocket at the end of the month? Or that job that you loved and were so good at, but you now realize how very toxic that office was that you now, in your new job, feel less stress because there is not the constant talking behind every one’s backs, and your new job has a superior support system where they can see your amazing skills and potential, but not only that, there is also an incredible benefit and pension package that goes along with your new position.
Some say that things happen for a reason. Perhaps that is true. Whether they do or the don’t is beside the point. What we can work with is how we look to these scenarios. We can choose to see the negative, never having closure as to why the people in that office were so hurtful to you and why you never received closure as to why you were let go. But, we can also see that these negative things need to happen so that we can truly and honestly appreciate when something wonderful happens, without taking it for granted, assuming that all things will work out the same way.
Reframing our outlook changes how we view the world. It can make us appreciate the good in our lives, even when there are terrible things happening in our world around us.