I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and reading about vision boards and vision journals lately. They are two paths to help one realize their potential, a visual guide to continue on towards goals, and a motivator to get where one wants to go.
I wonder sometimes how many people put on the solid effort to create visions to propel themselves to the next level of their lives. This motivates me to help others in achieving their goals and dreams. I would love to be able to help others to create their own vision board, or journal, or even both. I have a new mission in life.
I would love to hear from those who do vision boards/journals and how they help you. I would also love to hear from those who do not, but are interested in them and what questions might arise that should be answered.
Easter is often thought of as a religious holiday. This year, Passover occurs at the same time, giving many individuals reason to celebrate their given faiths concurrently.
I see Easter as more than a religious observance. Easter to me is the time of renewal for myself, Mother Nature, and the world in general. Living in North America, Easter falls at the start of spring. While we still have plenty of snow around today, it hardly feels like spring, but the attitude and expectations are still the same nonetheless. Spring brings about new life, and since Easter occurs during this season, the two are intertwined for me.
There are many times of the year where I feel the need to re-evaluate and refresh my goals and motivations. Naturally, Easter is one of them. I find with the days getting longer, and the sun feeling warmer as it shines through the windows, it is a good time to check in with my progress. I look to see which goals I am on my way to meeting, which ones I have met, and where I need to go from here.
I get motivation at Easter because there are new beginnings happening all around me. The snow is melting, the grass starts to grow and green up. Tulips and other flowers start to wake from their winter sleep. I see birds start nesting in their homes in my back yard, preparing for their new babies. It sets the tone for the next few months, as we gear up for summer, then prepare for autumn. Spring and Easter are one of my favourite times of the year.
I wish you all a wonderful spring, and I hope you choose to celebrate the season in whichever manner suits you best.
Is happiness a choice, or is it something that simply is? Do we get to decide if we are happy or not? Are we just a victim of our surroundings?
In my life, I believe we can choose to be happy. Yes, things happen in life that can be difficult, but when it comes down to it all, how we opt to deal with the things that have happened, its ultimately up to us whether we choose to remain sad or bitter about the events, or if we instead decide to still be happy.
Happiness is a much healthier option. I have seen people who seemingly have everything in life, yet they simply cannot be happy for themselves. Keep in mind, this is different from those exhibiting signs of depression, and I would not lump a mental health condition into the same category. I have also seen people who have had severely traumatic events happen in their lives who still chose to be grateful that they are still alive on this earth.
We all have days where the weight of the world brings us down. I try to remind myself that I am lucky to be where I am. I have gratitude for the friends and family I have, my living conditions, my job and my passions. I am grateful for having an able body which allows me to do things that others may not have the opportunity to do. This gratitude invariably leads me to happiness.
I look for the positives; for the good in the world. I avoid the news because happy news does not make money and therefore they do not play it. I cultivate my circle of friends to ones who reflect my inner light, and we bring each other up instead of drawing them down. I count my blessings.
Everyday, there is something new to be grateful for. Look for it and you will find happiness everywhere.
Friendship is something that can be taken for granted. For many people, they have always had friends surrounding them, and it is a blessing. Old, long-lasting friendships are truly a treasured thing for they have endured the test of time; a friendship that has grown and changed just as the people have. It can be rare to find these days. People tend to move with work opportunities and for the hopes of a different life. These decisions impact those friendships simply because distance is a difficult thing to endure.
New friendships are forged, and they become equally as important. They are based in what is relevant in their lives at the time they were brought together. The great thing about new friendships is that they all have the opportunity to turn into old friendships, given enough time. Neither one is more valuable than the other. They are all equally as important.
I am grateful for all the friendships in my life, both new and old. I look forward to these newer friendships growing and ageing along with me, and I truly hope they do. I do not ever wish to take any of my friendships for granted. For me, they are blooms in my garden of life. I want to cultivate them, removing the weeds, and feed the flowers.
I spent yesterday evening thinking back to what the past five years has brought me, and how my life has changed. Yes, divorce will do that to you. But, there is more to it than that. I have realized when I look back at the past five years, I am amazed at how much I have done and how it has helped me grow as an individual.
Not only have I become free from a life (and marriage) that were strangling me, I have opened myself up and become more of who I truly am. I have taken courses and completed two certificates, with the third and fourth ones to be completed shortly. None of which have anything to do with my profession, I might add. They are simply because I enjoy them and choose to increase my knowledge in other areas that interest me. I have dramatically improved my photography skills through practice, mentorship, and coursework, and continue to do so. I have taken myself out of my comfort zone and explored places I would never have expected to go on my own before these five years. I have joined groups and met new friends that mean the world to me. I have plans and aspirations for the next five years that have spiralled off of what the previous five years have provided me.
Something that I didn’t realize when I was in the midst of it all, but when I look back, I can see how much the little bits have changed me over time. Tony Robbins says that people overestimate what they can do in a day but underestimate what they can do in a year. It’s true. I have seen it in myself, and I believe what he has said. I am grateful for my self-motivation to do more. I am glad I have not allowed my life to become passive, but instead, take an active role in what happens in my life. This is my journey, and I want to make the most of it!
The term “self-improvement” has always left me with a cliché sense to the term. What exactly do you mean when you say you’re doing some self-improvement? The term, to me, implies that you felt you weren’t enough as you were. Harsh, I know.
It isn’t what it means at all. In fact, I too, have been working on some self-improvement. I do it all the time, even if I may not use that term specifically.
Self-improvement really refers to bettering yourself as time goes on; to compete with the person you were, not anyone else. We all improve with age, don’t we? Any time we pick up one of those self-help books, or an audio podcast designed to help us with one aspect of our lives or another, we are tuning into self-improvement.
Striving for more is self-improvement in itself. Are you looking to learn a new craft, a new language, or try a new cuisine? Anything that broadens our own experiences is a form of self-improvement. It doesn’t have to be the inspirational, motivational speakers, or the life coaches, the woo woo, or even the subliminal tapes. Anything we do to experience more that our world has to offer is a form of self-improvement.
So, call it what you will, but whatever it is, I encourage you to continue to be a better person tomorrow, than you were today.
This is my self-diagnosis. It captivated me years ago and it keeps me hostage in my safe place. Whatifitis is rooted in fear. It prevents me from taking chances in so many areas of my life: my career, my hobbies, my love life, my dreams. It keeps me frozen in my current state because it is a comfort zone, although comfort zones aren’t always as safe as what they appear to be.
Don’t get me wrong, I have conquered some of my whatifitis, such as taking solo trips and visiting new places with my sons, but it still keeps me in shackles when it comes to other aspects in my life.
It keeps me from taking the what-if leap.
What if I started that small business.
What if I allowed that man to come into my life and my family.
What if I didn’t overthink every single solitary step in my life?
Overcoming whatifitis isn’t an overnight thing. The cure is hard work and determination. There needs to be a realization and self reflection on what I am doing. Is there is any self-sabotaging behaviours present? There needs to be a plan; a schematic to ensure whatifitis doesn’t return to take me back to that place. I have had a glimpse of the freedom from whatifitis, and it is a beautiful thing. I think I am ready to explore that further, and to find a way to cure myself of this condition.
I am certain that we all have times where we experience self doubt. The am I good enough, or the what if they don’t like me, or the I can’t do this feeling creeps into our lives at times of self doubt. I know for certain these feelings come into my life often. I worry about failure because of self doubt. I might not even attempt to try what I wanted because self doubt tells me I can’t do it.
Then, there are times when I have allowed self doubt to win and I see someone else out there doing what I had wanted to do. I realize that they are no better at it than I am. The difference though? They didn’t let self doubt stop them from going out and doing it.
Dreams and aspirations don’t need to be halted because of self doubt. Put yourself out there. You may be surprised at just how much you can accomplish when you put self doubt into the back seat and let confidence take over the steering wheel for a while. Believe in yourself.
Decisions in life aren’t always black and white. How do you choose which path to take when the answer isn’t completely clear? Do you trust your instinct, go with your gut? Do you make a pros/cons list for every option and weigh them out? Do you gain advice from friends, family, and professionals?
Some decisions aren’t as monumental as others, but when they are, many things hang in the balance. What compels you to choose one path over another is different for each one of us. While I may be sitting in this situation right now, I am trying to gain as much information as possible from as many sources as I can. I want to make the right decision, not just the right decision for right now.
So, while I am busy trying to make my best decision, I feel rather absent minded when it comes to other areas, pushing them to the back burner as it were. Single parenting, while rewarding in itself, is also very challenging. Adding major decisions makes it even more challenging. To those who are sitting in a similar position as I am, my heart goes out to you.
Every day we have the opportunity to affect someone’s life. How we choose to do so is up to us. Will we make a positive impact on someone, or will it be negative? How we choose to approach any given situation is up to us.
I am very fortunate to have the opportunity to see many different people from many different spectrums of life. I know that I have the power to make their day miserable, or to try and turn it around and make a positive impact on each person I see in a day. I know that there are people who are looked through instead of looked into. I don’t want to just look through people. Nobody wants to be invisible.
When we choose to be someone’s happiness, the effect multiplies. When we take time to truly be present in the moment, we show that person that they matter. Connect with them, lock eyes so they know that you are listening. You might be amazed at what happens!
When we show that people truly matter, their best comes forward. I was able to get a smile, more than once, from an elderly man who was perceived as being difficult by others. Beyond being able to get a smile from him, he also sang for me.
Not only was I part of his happiness, he became someone who gave me happiness in return. Will you be someone’s happiness too?