You could look at the literal word and think of bodybuilders or construction men or firefighters even. That is simply physical strength though. What about the other strengths out there?
Strength to me is determination and courage. Strength is the struggling student who works a full time job, still makes it to classes and still completes all the requirements to graduate and move their life into a new plane. Strength is the cancer survivor who stays positive during the surgeries, the radiation treatments and the chemotherapy while still being that positive beacon for her children and her husband. Strength is the father going into that surgery knowing full well that he may not wake up from the anesthesia yet taking the chance because if he doesn’t, the cancer still wins. Strength is the wife who stands by his side and supports him because that’s all she can do.
Strength is the child who stands up for his friend against the schoolyard bully, even though he fears being the next target. Strength is the single mother who gets up and goes to work every day to a job that causes her pain, yet she goes anyway because that is what her children need her to do. Strength is the woman who leaves an abuser before it goes too far. Strength is the man suffering depression, but he still gets out of bed every day.
I see all these people around me. Perhaps they do not see their strength, but others do. Strength is all around us. We all have our own battles. Some are more visible than others. Don’t judge others based on what you think you see, for their story is like an iceberg: you may see the tip poking out above the surface, but the rest of the story and reasons for who they are and why they do what they do are hidden underneath in the dark waters.
Have an open mind and an open heart. Give acceptance and love.
The other day I went to visit my doctor. As usual, he asked how I was doing and if I was seeing anyone. My doctor likes to keep tabs on me since he knew the issues that occurred before and during the divorce. He always asks how my children are coping as well.
Am I seeing anyone? No, not really. But do I want to be? Well, that got me to thinking. Then the next day I read a brief article on the benefits of being single. That got me thinking even more. There are a lot of benefits to being single. You are the only one spending your income, so you choose where it goes. You decide if you use a credit card for a high-cost item or if you decide to save up before purchasing it. You decide how to pay off debt (like divorce debt), and how you allot your dollars. You decide how to decorate your home. Are you a minimalist or do you like to fill your home with things? Your choice. You decide if you want a pet, and if so, what kind? Do you want to travel? Where do you want to go?
Here’s the best one. You become utterly and solely you. When in a relationship, partners tend to pick up on certain pieces of the other partner’s personality. Quirks, sayings, behaviours. These things tend to blend. The dominant personality tends to overshadow the less dominant personality. You essentially become the same person. However, when you choose a life of being single, you know that who you are is simply you. And that is a good feeling.
Spring is often a time of change. With the changing seasons, the melting of the winter’s snow, many of us look to spring as a time of change and renewal. A fresh beginning. We have spring cleaning which revives our homes. The sun coming up earlier gives us more energy to tackle life’s challenges, and maybe even for us to set new goals and plan for achievements.
I know for me spring is all of those things. I look towards the future and see what I might like to change. I review my five year plan, my finances, and see if my goals are still in line with my personal outlook on life. Sometimes it is, but sometimes it isn’t. When it’s not, I adjust the goals to match my current philosophy or state of mind. Life events change how we view things. We maybe realize that having that Mercedes isn’t as important as it once was. Maybe we see the value of striking out on our own and creating that dream business. Maybe we stick out our necks and try to publish that book that was a private labour of love.
Whatever spring may mean to you, I hope it is fruitful and joyous, as life is meant to be.
Everyday life sometimes gets between us and our dreams. We work to pay the bills but there is oftentimes an underlying passion that sits there. An unrealized dream.
Sometimes things happen in our lives to make us remember these things. They send us down a path where we face them again and again, re-sparking that passion that was lingering with a slow burn under the layers of drudgery that is daily life.
When that happens, we are almost forced to listen. We see it there, hazy like waking from a slumber, where it is all but forgotten. That is when you know you need to pay attention to those dreams. To determine how you can make those dreams a reality. To set goals to achieve what it is you’ve always wanted. Don’t back down now. Something out there is calling to you.
You live this life once. Don’t let your opportunities pass you by. Find your way. Find your happiness. Because when you do, you won’t have regrets at the end of your days. Live your dream.
Managing people is a delicate thing. Knowing how to interact with people. Read people. Be able to effectively communicate with people not only verbally, but with body language and the eyes.
To have a higher level of emotional intelligence is key to success. One of those soft skills that makes a leader good at their job. But what happens when those oh so soft skills are lacking?
Mistakes happen. People are not treated with the dignity or respect they deserve. They are treated like a number. Employee satisfaction decreases and high turnover exists. There is no such thing as it’s just business. People are business.
It is a sad situation when the employee has a higher EQ than the manager. When it can be clearly seen and understood by the employee. But does it make it acceptable just because the supervisor has a lower EQ? Absolutely not. These are things that need addressing. Skills that need to be present if the manager is to be good at the job.
This is not a new topic anymore. I studied it a good decade ago during one of my degrees. It made sense then, still makes sense now. It would be a very good tool to be assessed when hiring people for these positions. Success hinges more on EQ than it does on IQ.
Food for thought.