When Gilmore Girls ran from 2000 to 2007, I didn’t pay much attention to the show. At that particular point in my life, I couldn’t relate. I was still married at that point and working overtime consistently. Then had my sons, and I still could not relate because I had sons, not a daughter; I had a husband, although it often felt like I was parenting and running the household all alone.
I have watched the series a couple of times since my divorce. I find that I can now relate to the characters much more now than I could when it first came out. There are a few aspects of the show that I find appealing.
I have five reasons outlined here:
I like that Lorelai is a strong, independent single mother. She stands up for herself and her daughter. She does not back down when she feels that she is justified. I like this tenacity, and it gives me strength when I don’t feel like I have the fight left in me any longer.
I appreciate that Lorelai can be alone comfortably, but that she is not bitter towards men, and still has the hope that somewhere out there, she will find the right one. That goes without saying that the right one was before her the whole time, but she needed to figure that out for herself, and she did. Sometimes we all need that opportunity to find things out in our own way instead of being told by someone else.
I admire that she has been successful in her own right. She worked her way up to managing the Independence Inn, worked herself through college, then embarked upon an entrepreneurial venture with her best friend, Sookie. This shows tenacity in character, one that I hope I can also demonstrate. I know this is a make believe story, and that many do not work this way in real life, but sometimes we need to believe the story to give us the courage to carry forward.
I acknowledge that the story shows conflict between Lorelai and her parents. This is realistic as we all have some sort of conflict to contend with. It may not be to the extreme that this make-believe family endures, but it is symbolic nonetheless.
I adore the bonding between Lorelai and her daughter, Rory. This is incredibly important to me as I hope that as my sons continue to grow and develop, that we will also have a bond as strong as the one portrayed between Lorelai and Rory.
When I need motivation to carry forward with the things that are weighing me down in my real life, I find that this show gives me courage to continue on. I gain strength from the idea that I am not alone in the world of single parenting. I recognize that I should not close the doors to potential romantic relationships, but at the same time, continue on as I would without the thought of needing a partner. Every time I watch an episode, it provides me with a little something that I am in need of, and for that I am grateful.