Everyone walks a different path. Some people have a need to be in a partnership, and others tend to go from relationship to relationship searching for whatever it is that they need. Then there are the other people who seem to do well on their own. These are interesting people. They depend on themselves and are content to be alone.
This doesn’t mean they don’t have friends or want to go out and have a good time. They just don’t have a need to be in a relationship to define themselves or feel complete. I admire this quality. And as time goes on, I feel that I fit into this group more and more. I find I need to weigh the pros and cons of relationships with being single every time someone tries to set me up, or I am asked out on a date. For the last few years, the single me continues to win.
I used to be afraid of growing old and dying alone. I don’t fear that any longer. It seems to me that once you get to know yourself truly as just you without outside influences, it becomes easier to live your life as a single person.
Will I stay single forever? I don’t have the answer to that, but I know that for now, it feels right to be alone, and that it is perfectly ok.