There isn’t much that is more satisfying than a good, symbiotic friendship. Especially when that friend is also the parent of your children’s best friends.
Then funny thing is, when you go through divorce, you find out who your real friends are, who are the gossips, and who just want to meddle and cause problems. Some are easier to weed out than others. But those who are actual, true friends…well, those ones are more precious than gold.
One friend happened to be an unlikely one. One I hadn’t given much thought to, but I am very grateful for his existence. The best part about this friendship is that there are no ulterior motives there. No expectations. He helps me, I help him. We drink wine.
End of story.
What’s most interesting is because he is the opposite gender, I get a different perspective when I talk with him. I can see things from the male perspective…something that is lacking in an all female friendship circle.
Some people would claim that men and women are unable to have a purely platonic relationship. I disagree. I do know that many men (and likely women too) will use the guise of friendship with less than pure intentions. I’ve seen it, I’ve had it happen to me, I will not do that to another. I know he does not have this agenda. He has a beautiful girlfriend who far surpasses me. So, this makes it a safe friendship to maintain.
I think every divorcing man and woman should have this kind of friendship at some point. It really does change how you view the opposite sex, and as far as I’m concerned, it enhances life. For my children, they now have that strong and positive male role model that they desperately have been craving. This is probably the most valuable part of all.